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Go from Victim to Victor with Relentless Solution Focus

Go from Victim to Victor with Relentless Solution Focus

From bestselling author and mental toughness expert, Jason Selk, reveals how to shift your focus from problems to solutions.

Are you the type of person who does 99 things right in a day and one thing less than perfectly, only to focus on that one shortcoming? Does your mind often go to what could potentially go wrong, rather that all that is going right? If you have allowed your own shortcomings or the uncontrollables in your life to consume your thoughts, you are not alone. You are normal.  Our brains are wired to focus on problems, and, unfortunately, this problem focus often leads to our problems getting worse.  This is called Problem Centric Thought, or PCT.   The good news is that PCT doesn’t have to overwhelm you.

Let me be clear: You cannot control adversity—whether in the form of a global pandemic, a divisive election, or a business challenge. Adversity is a guaranteed part of our human experience. While you can’t control adversity, you can always control what you do about it. Instead of allowing the victim mentality to take hold, creating a sense of helplessness, the mentally tough choose to be relentless and take control. The most highly successful professionals, from sales reps to CEOs, know how to attack and replace PCT with what I call Relentless Solution Focus, or RSF.

To effectively go from victim to victor, you must gain control over your thoughts and replace problems with solutions. Remember, you are wired for PCT, so unless you have a concrete tool to conquer it, your brain will default to focusing on your problems—and this is really bad. Here’s why: when your brain is focused on something that you can’t control or a problem, it sends the signal to your body to release the stress hormone cortisol. At low levels, cortisol can be beneficial, but at even moderate levels, cortisol wreaks havoc on your health, happiness, and success. It significantly increases your risk for diseases, cancers, depression, and anxiety, and it significantly impairs your decision-making and self-confidence. Those are just a few of the negative effects on the list. Most of us are walking around with a low-dose poison coursing through our veins on a daily basis because of PCT. RSF is the antidote to that poison. 

So, how does this work?  The key is the Relentless Solution Focus (RSF) Tool—a simple question, that if answered within 60 seconds, will shift your focus from problems to solutions. Once you learn how to use it, you will be able to gain control over your thoughts and effectively and consistently defeat PCT.

RSF Tool: “What is one thing I can do that could make this better?”

For the financial advisor who is struggling to attract new clients, the answer to this question may be “make three proactive calls by 9:00 am each day.”  For the businesswoman whose laptop crashed before her sales presentation, it is “present the facts anyway, and ask for the order.”

To understand how to apply the RSF Tool to your own problems, let’s use the image of a mental chalkboard, with problems on one side and solutions on the other. Anytime you find yourself on the problem side of the mental chalkboard, you can and should use the RSF Tool to get yourself to the solution side within 60 seconds. “What is one thing I can do that could make this better?” Answering that will force you to immediately cross over the line from the problem side of your board to the solution side. Quite simply, the RSF Tool puts you back in control. It is a concrete way to shift from PCT to RSF. Often, you will need to use the RSF Tool repeatedly until you get a solution that sticks. Until that happens, you may bounce back and forth between the problem side and the solution side of the mental chalkboard. The key is to be relentless about not allowing yourself to stay on the problem side for more than 60 seconds. To get back to the solution side, use the RSF Tool as many times as it takes: “What is one thing I can do that could make this better?” Focusing on the right thoughts keeps you in the fight. Anything less and the fight is over.

The RSF Tool doesn’t ask your for five or three or even two things at a time to improve, but rather just one thing, one different action. And it doesn’t demand that you identify the one perfect solution, but rather one potential improvement.

Sometimes the first solution will work. If so, great! If not, we have to go back to the drawing board (i.e., the mental chalkboard) one solution at a time, relentlessly, until either the situation is improved, or we have come up with a way to emotionally handle the situation differently. For the woman trying to work from home while managing her kids’ virtual learning, the answer to “What is one thing I can do that could make this better?” might be to wake up 30 minutes earlier to catch up on emails before the kids wake up. If her five-year-old decided to jump out of bed at the crack of dawn that morning, she goes back to the question: “What is one thing I can do that could make this better?” She may decide that she will move her “office” to the deck to give herself the best chance at being uninterrupted. If it rains all morning, she goes back to the question: “What is one thing I can do that could make this better?” She keeps going back to the question until she finds a solution that helps to improve her situation. It is critical to understand that the point is not to find a way to solve your problem in its entirety, but to relentlessly search for potential improvements. Even though her first few solutions did not work, the woman is miles ahead of where she would be otherwise had she allowed PCT to consume her thoughts about her situation.

This is where being relentless is critical. A normal person will come across a problem, try a couple of different solutions, and give up when they don’t work or if complete resolution is not achieved. When most of us don’t get immediate relief from our problems, we tell ourselves some version of, “Poor me. My problem is just too big. I give up.” That is not relentlessness. You must continue this process until you have a solution on your mental chalkboard that you believe in. Without a solution, your mind has no way of staying in the RSF mindset and will default to PCT. Using the RSF Tool is like dropping an anchor on the solution side. The potential solution keeps you on the healthy side of thinking. Remember, when your thoughts are focused on solutions, your brain isn’t releasing cortisol at the levels that wreak havoc on us mentally, physically, and emotionally. Even if your problems don’t go away completely, there is a huge health benefit to merely looking through the solution-focused lens at life.

Making small incremental improvements, even if it’s only one inch at a time, keeps you living on the solution-focused side of the mental chalkboard. The goal is not necessarily to solve your problems, but rather to improve your situation and to stay on the solution side of the mental chalkboard. The solution does not have to be perfect. It is all about improvement.

Be relentless. Take control.

To read more from Jason Selk, check out his new book, Relentless Solution Focus.
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While serving as the Director of Mental Training for the St Louis Cardinals, Dr. Jason Selk helped the team win their first World Series in over 20 years, and in 2011 he assisted the Cardinals in the historic feat of winning their second World Championship in a six-year period. Dr. Selk is a regular contributor to Forbes, INC, Success, Shape, and Self Magazine; ABC, CBS, ESPN, and NBC radio and television; and has been featured in USA Today, CNBC, and Men’s Health.